Discussing End-of-Life With a Family Member

Medical professionals and counselors who deal with families facing end-of-life issues offer a few suggestions to the rest of us on “how to start a conversation” when we have a very sick loved one. They say the first thing to consider is having a conversation in one’s kitchen is a whole lot easier than having it in the hospital. It may also encourage your family to start the conversation if they learn that studies find families who have talked about it beforehand express less feelings of guilt after the person passes away. Moreover, they say they had an easier time grieving and were less likely to experience depression.

The type of questions to ask to get a conversation started include “what does the person value most about their life?” Other topics of discussion could be to find out what the person understands about their illness; what matters most to them at the end of life; how they want to handle medical decisions; and what their fears and physical needs are.

As a family member, you need to remember to practice active listening. It is important to leave your own views out of the discussion and try to understand what the person is feeling. Find out if they want to spend their last days at home; and who do they wish to be surrounded by as they face death. This is also a good time to encourage them to express their wishes regarding burial.

Ask if the person has an advanced directive, which is a legally binding document that gives instructions for healthcare if they are no longer able to make or communicate those decisions themselves. This can include their wishes around discontinuing treatment and medications; and saves the family from having to make difficult decisions.

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Source: aarp.org/caregiving/basics/info-2020/end-of-life-talk-care-talk.html